There are many benefits of studying traditional or classical martial arts that are not part of the "contemporary" approach. This is unfortunate as, as time goes by the very elements of the "real" martial arts that have centuries of history are watered down to the point that there is little benefit from walking path. It is a commercial sell out focused on recreation and weight loss. This is not a total loss but we are fast getting to a shadow of what is offered by martial art training.
The responsibility is with the Sensei or Teacher. Much of what I see is not unlike children attempting to do things different from their parents to make things better for their children. Respect for elders is all but ignored and responsibility is down played. Learning in a traditional Dojo will not allow disrespect at any level. I found comfort in this knowing what is expected just like any military organization. My Sensei took it upon himself to make sure we leaned and followed the edicit of a Dojo. This was not done boss others around, it is however, our way of recognizing the hard work done by others and their kindness in sharing their knowledge with others.
It is not supposed to be easy. Life is not easy so why not learn the self-discipline it takes to succeed in life at whatever one is attempting. When the going gets tough courage and self-discipline will help you succeed if you have developed it. It is the Sensei's responsibility to help develope these character traits even if it takes one out of their comfort zone. As a matter a fact this is exactly what our Sensei must do or they sell their students short. Currently this is not as appreciated as it should be either by the students or the modern day "Sensei".
Sensei Martel did more to assist me in these areas than my own parents and tears fell at his funeral several years ago as a result.
While training under Sensei Martel in Judo he would push me to my limit then a little more, especially when I reached brown belt and it was apparent that I was going for Shodan (the coveted Black Belt). He tried to frustrate me and challenge me to help me learn how to deal with difficult situations. This was necessary for me to learn how to control my emotions and stress. One watching might think he was bullying me, yet I understood and appreciated his actions to the point that when he stopped pushing and started to stand back and observe, I was upset and asked him what I did wrong to make him upset with me. He explained that it was now time to "walk on my own". He had seen what he wanted and assisted with shaping my character to the point he knew I had what I need to stand on my own and continue my studies even in his absence. Now this is a real Sensei. Much like a great parent, he took the hard way to teach me and prepare me for success in anything I choose to do. Learning to fight so I wouldn't have to was only a perk of little value in comparison to what a well led Dojo has to offer its students. Nothing stops me if I make up my mind to achieve as long as it is done with respect, courage and self-discipline.